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15 Tips To Improve Being Solution-Oriented And Building Healthy Coping Skills

It can be easy to get bogged down in the day-to-day stress of life and feel like you’re just treading water. But what if there were some simple things you could do to not only improve your overall outlook but also increase your resilience in the face of adversity? Below are 15 tips to help you become more solution-oriented and build healthy coping skills.

Learn And Perfect The ABCs Of Solution Orientation

A: The optimistic attitude

As soon as a challenge arises it is important to affirm an optimistic attitude. Say aloud, “I will get through this,” and “I will find a solution.” The optimistic attitude not only affirms our belief that we can persevere it also helps build a discipline of hunger for solutions. 

In this critical moment we make a firm decision, a sort of contract with ourselves. And it is the difference between deciding to face the challenge head on, or allowing it to destroy us. 

B: Solutions Require Analysis

At this point we begin to deeply analyze the problem, including its cause. 

This is a proactive approach that is based on critical thinking methodology that allows us to fully understand the scope of what we are facing.

In order to find the best solution, we must first understand exactly what we are facing. 

C: Go outside the box

At this point we must push past the boundaries of limited thinking and look outside the box for a more creative brainstorming session. 

Limited thinking is just that, limited, but when we push past our own self-imposed limits we begin to see truly ingenious ideas that can present the most innovative of solutions for our problems. 

D: Take Action

At this point when all analysis and affirmation of optimism have taken place it is time to take action.

The resilient never stop at analysis and thinking, they always take action when solving problems and facing any challenges that come their way. 

To perfect this process requires practice. Continuous practice over and over will instill these steps as second nature and allow you to become a master of solution orientation. 

Be Mindful Of Your Thoughts And Try To Focus On The Positive

From the time we wake up until the time we go to sleep our minds are constantly thinking. It is estimated that the average person has between 12,000-60,000 thoughts per day and 95% of those thoughts are the same as the day before. That means that for the most part we are on autopilot, thinking the same thoughts over and over again without even realizing it.

The good news is that we have the power to change our thoughts, and in doing so, change our lives. When we become aware of our thoughts, we can choose to focus on the positive instead of the negative. People who focus on positive thoughts are happier, healthier, and more successful than those who don’t. Being mindful is a healthy coping mechanism that allows us to develop resilience throughout our lives.

Don’t Dwell On What’s Out Of Your Control

One of the most important things you can do for your mental health is to focus on what you can control. When you spend your energy dwelling on things that are out of your control, it can lead to anxiety and depression. Instead, focus on what you can change.

Make a plan of action and take small steps each day to reach your goals. This will help you develop resilience, which is the ability to bounce back from setbacks. It’s important to remember that resilience is not about avoiding all difficulties, but rather about how you cope with them when they do occur. So next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember to focus on what you can control and take small steps each day to reach your goals.

Take Things One Step At A Time And Break Down Overwhelming Tasks

When it comes to problem-solving, it is important to take things one step at a time. Trying to tackle everything at once will only lead to frustration and overwhelm. Instead, break the task down into smaller, more manageable pieces.

Begin by identifying the goal (or solution) that you are trying to achieve. Then, make a list of all the steps that you need to take in order to reach that goal. Take your time and focus on one step at a time. Trying to rush through the process will only make it more difficult.

This will allow you to focus more on the solution rather than the bigger problem at hand. And when we shift our focus away from the problem, we strengthen our resilience by reinforcing the positive rather than the negative.

Practice Active Listening – Pay Attention When Others Are Speaking To You

When you’re trying to be solution-oriented, it’s important to practice active listening. This means really paying attention when others are speaking to you. Try to focus on what they’re saying, without getting distracted by other thoughts or distractions in the room.

Repeat back what you’ve heard to show that you were paying attention and to make sure you understand. Active listening can be difficult, but it’s a skill that can be learned with practice. When you’re solution-oriented, it’s important to be able to listen carefully to others so that you can fully understand the problem and come up with the best possible solution.

Change Your Attitude

A problem-solving attitude is a solution-oriented mindset that looks for ways to improve a situation. This type of attitude is characterized by a willingness to take on challenges, identify potential solutions, and take action to implement those solutions.

People with problem-solving attitudes are often creative and resourceful, and they are always looking for ways to make things better. This type of mindset is essential for success in any field, but it is especially important in fields such as business, healthcare, and education. If you want to be successful in your chosen field, it is important to develop a problem-solving attitude.

Use Critical Thinking

When presented with a problem, it is important to be solution oriented. This means that you should focus on finding a resolution rather than dwelling on the negative aspects of the situation. However, it is also important to use critical thinking when searching for a solution. This means that you should not just accept the first solution that presents itself.

Instead, you should take the time to evaluate all of the options and choose the one that is most likely to be successful. By using both critical thinking and solution-oriented strategies, you will be more likely to find a resolution that works for everyone involved.

Brainstorm To Find More Solutions

Being solution-oriented means that you are always looking for ways to improve a situation or fix a problem. This can be a valuable trait in both your personal and professional life. When you encounter a challenge, taking a brainstorming approach can help you to find more solutions.

First, allow yourself to think freely without judgment. Write down every idea that comes to mind, no matter how far-fetched it may seem. Then, take a step back and look at all of the ideas you have generated. 

After that, it’s time to start narrowing down your options. Identify which ideas are realistic and which ones are not feasible. From there, you can choose the best solution. Brainstorming is an effective way to find more solutions because it allows you to tap into your creative side and explore all possibilities.

Listen To Uplifting Or Inspirational Music

Music has the power to lift our moods, boost our energy levels, and give us a sense of hope. It can also help us to forget our troubles and focus on the positive aspects of our lives. When we are feeling down, listening to uplifting music can be a healthy coping mechanism that helps us to develop resilience. By filling our minds with positive thoughts and emotions, we can train our brains to respond more positively to challenges and setbacks.

Clean Or Organize Your Space

When our environment is cluttered and chaotic, it can add to our stress levels and make it difficult to focus. But when our space is clean and tidy, it can help us feel calmer and more in control. So next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, try taking some time to tidy up your space. It just might help you feel more capable of dealing with whatever life throws your way.

Practice A Relaxation Exercise

Relaxation techniques are a healthy coping mechanism that can help you to develop resilience. When you feel overwhelmed or stressed, the practice of relaxation can help you to restore a sense of balance and calm. There are many different relaxation techniques that you can choose from, and it may take some trial and error to find the ones that work best for you. Some popular relaxation techniques include deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, visualization, and mindfulness meditation.

Write Yourself A Nice Note And Carry It In Your Pocket

One healthy coping mechanism for developing resilience is to write yourself a nice note and carry it in your pocket. Whenever you start to doubt yourself, you can take out the note and read it as a reminder that you are capable and worthy of good things. This may seem like a small gesture, but over time, it can make a big difference in the way you see yourself and the world around you.

Write Down How You’re Feeling & Why, Read It Once, And Then Put It Away

It can be helpful to get our thoughts and feelings down on paper. It allows us to process them in a different way and to see them from a different perspective. Reading what we have written can also be therapeutic, as it can help us to understand our own emotions and experiences better.

Once we have read what we have written, it is important to put it away somewhere safe so that we can forget about it and move on with our day. This helps us to develop resilience, as we are practicing healthy coping mechanisms that allow us to let go of our negative thoughts and experiences.

Find A Safe, Quiet Place To Sit & Stay There Until You Know You Can Be Safe

When faced with a traumatic or stressful event, it can be difficult to know how to react. One healthy coping mechanism is to find a safe, quiet place to sit and stay there until you feel confident that you can be safe. This allows you to take a moment to catch your breath and collect your thoughts.

It also gives you an opportunity to assess the situation and decide what the best course of action is. By taking a moment to calm yourself, you are more likely to make decisions that are in line with your goals and values. This can be a difficult coping mechanism to employ in the heat of the moment, but with practice, it can help you develop resilience in the face of adversity.

Use Positive SelfTalk

We all talk to ourselves. It’s a natural part of our internal dialogue. But what we say to ourselves can have a big impact on our mental and emotional well-being. When we’re facing challenges, it’s easy to fall into the trap of negative self-talk – those critical, harsh words we say to ourselves when things don’t go according to plan. 

Negative self-talk can fuel anxiety and depression and make it difficult to cope with difficult situations. On the other hand, positive self-talk is a healthy coping mechanism that can help us develop resilience in the face of adversity.

Positive self-talk helps us to reframe challenges in a more positive light, see setbacks as temporary, and view ourselves in a more positive way. When we use positive self-talk, we’re more likely to take action to solve problems and persevere in the face of difficulties.