A big part of growing in life is learning lessons that are necessary for your adjustment to society and the world around you. As you’re growing up, it’s easy to try to ignore these lessons that are hard but necessary to learn. However, these lessons are necessary for you to learn in order for you to be a properly functioning and well-adjusted adulted.

More often than not, it will take failure to learn these lessons, but the pattern of trial and error is how we learn and grow in life. We’ve narrowed our list down to the top five important life lessons we find most universal and most useful.

1| It’s okay to ask for help

One of the hardest lessons to learn and accept in life is the fact that it’s okay to admit the need for help. This is hard for most people because it involves admitting weakness and allowing yourself to be vulnerable. It also involves admitting someone is better than you or understands something you don’t.

It’s completely acceptable and oftentimes necessary to admit that you need and accept help. There is no shame in ignorance (not knowing), but nothing but shame in stupidity (refusing to learn). Asking for help can encompass a number of things ranging from emotional distress to resolving a problem or mistake to help learning something new.

Who you ask for help and how you ask it will depend on the type of assistance you require, but never be ashamed to ask.

2| All things will eventually pass

This lesson is one of the hardest to learn and most difficult to realize when you need it. When something tragic or devastating happens, it can be hard to notice and admit that there will be an end to the tribulation, but we assure you, it will eventually come to an end. This lesson is incredibly challenging to learn, but, once you do, it will make your life dealing with difficult times eons easier.

3| Do what you love

Life is far too short to waste your precious time doing things you don’t care about or enjoy doing. Many people learn this lesson too late in life and spend the majority of their life in misery. This lesson carries over into your personal life as well. Invest in your happiness and yourself; do things you want to do and get the most out of your life.

4| It’s okay to be wrong

One of the most difficult lessons to learn is that of admitting your faults and errors and accepting your ignorance, but it’s one of the most crucial lessons in life. It’s hard for a lot of people to accept, but it’s okay to be wrong; it’s how we grow.

Admitting and accepting when you’re wrong, mess up, or simply don’t know allows you to learn from the experience and prevent the error in the future. No one is perfect, and no one knows everything; ignorance and error are how we learn in life and grow and develop as people.

5| True happiness isn’t effortless

All things in life worth having and experience, take work and effort to achieve and happiness is no exception. In childhood, it’s common to think achieving happiness is as easy as buying something you have wanted or going to a place you have wanted to go. But, as you get older, you have to learn the hard lesson that happiness takes effort and work to have and, most importantly, to keep.

You have to take care of yourself both mentally and physically, work to achieve your goals and dreams, and work to maintain relationships that matter. There are a lot of variances that factor into a person’s overall happiness and they vary slightly from person to person, as well. The one thing that remains true across the board is that achieving that happiness won’t be effortless and that makes it all the more worth it.

Life lessons are rarely easy to handle but they’re necessary for growth. While you will never stop growing and learning life lessons, we’ve compiled a list of the top five lessons we find most universal and important for development and growth.

Most of these lessons take experience to learn and, more often than not, failure. It can be difficult to power through the hardship and take away the valuable lesson, but you’ll be a better person later in life for doing it.