“I hold that a strongly marked personality can influence descendants for generations.” ― Beatrix Potter
Recently I was having a conversation with an old school friend of mine Drew. He was complaining about a guy at his office whom he described as the biggest ass kisser of all time…
However, it must have worked because he was always getting new opportunities like promotions and raises…
“This guy must be elite”. I said
“I will never sink to his level man. There must be another way” Replied Drew as we had a good chuckle about it.
Looking back I have known some Class A Butt kissers in my time…
And it got me thinking…
See, one question I am often asked in my line of work is how to be more likable and influence others to your way of thinking at the same time.
And do it of course without brown-nosing or coming across as a suck-up.
Now I am sure you can think of someone who fits this mold to try and get what they want.
I am sure you will agree that it seldom helps how likable they are to others.
More often than not it has the opposite effect.
So what can you do to get what you want while still being well liked?
Well let me ask you this.
Do you struggle to get people to listen to you?
Alternatively, maybe you find all the effort you put in delivers you little reward?
Perhaps you feel ignored?
Or, possibly you feel like you are not progressing in your career as fast as would like?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this is a big problem that must be resolved.
Don’t ignore this…
Because recent studies have shown that the ability to influence others is the critical difference between your success and failure in everything you do…
Imagine how incredible you’ll feel when people not only listen to you but ACT on your suggestions. When YOUR OPINION MATTERS.
When you make a lasting impact on everyone, you meet…
Imagine what it will feel like when you get the promotions, raises, and accolades without having to ask…
When EVERYTHING you desire drifts effortlessly into your life without you having to work hard for it.
It is ALL possible but to ensure your success here is what I want you to do:
First, READ THIS ARTICLE to the end
Second, share it with anyone you think could benefit from it.
In a recent report I wrote, I divided the keys to influencing others into 8 sections I call the – 8 steps to ultimate influence.
Techniques that show you how to get what you want the right way.
Methods that can be used to improve your influence factor with other people dramatically.
With this in mind, I would like to share the first powerful technique with you to start you on your way to being a likable influencer…
And the first principle is to be actively engaging with Mind, Body, and Voice
You’ll notice all of the great leaders in the world have a knack for influencing others and getting people to follow them.
That is how all elections are won.
You better be more likable and influential than the other person.
This also applies to everyday situations.
For example: At the office more often than not the person who carry’s more influence and is also more likable gets the promotion.
Influence also applies when choosing a partner or for that matter the reverse.
Most people will want to pursue a partner who is likable, influential and convincing.
It is a lot simpler than you may think…
You have probably heard the phrase, “It’s not what you say, and it’s how you say it.”
And this is very true when it comes to influencing others.
In fact, the words you say account for less than 10% of what you actually communicate with other people.
Take presidential candidates for example – they all say the same things. They all promise to reform the health system, cut taxes etc.
But the winner is always the most influential person. The same goes in your life.
It’s the whole package that captures their complete attention. Not what you say, but how you say it. Your tone of voice, inflection, interest level, your presence, and how you hold your body and deliver those words – it’s all part of the conversation.
Walk up to someone and say, “What incredible eyes you have” with your head down, shoulders slumped and a hitch in your step, and they’ll probably nod uncomfortably and walk away.
However, if you say the same thing with a straight posture, a smile on your face and a confident tone in your voice, they’ll thank you and engage you in a conversation…
Think about it like this: how many times have you spoken to someone who looks nervous or distracted with poor body language and tends to mumble with their head down?
Would you want to continue chatting with them or listen to what they are saying?
Probably not right?
On the other hand, what if they walked up to you, started a conversation, made you laugh and put you at ease? What if they smiled patted you on the back and invited over two friends that would LOVE to meet someone like you?
You’d probably loosen up? You’d feel comfortable.
You wouldn’t feel like someone who stepped off a train into a foreign country where you don’t speak the language.
They project a positive vibe with their body language a mindset that says “I’m cool, so you can relax and listen to what I have to say.”
When you make this simple adjustment when you connect with people, you will find they are more attentive to what you are saying.
And in turn, they will be far more likely to listen to your ideas, take your advice and trust you with making decisions.
Try being more attentive to these elements, be convincing with what you say and I am sure you’ll notice the way people react to you positively almost instantly…
Another great way to become influence people is to develop a greater presence…
I invite you to Take a look at this free presentation we have put together for you that shows you how to develop a this magnetic presence to not only become more influential and likeable but also acquire the secrets of success and achieve everything you have always desired…
Anyway, that’s all from me for now…
I’ll be in touch soon…
I hope you have a fantastic day and remember…
Remember: You are the driver of your own life, don’t let anyone steal your seat!